"Love and respect yourself, for only then could others love and respect you."
Greetings, from Onyx...
Some of us often experience frusturation in their relationships with people they care about. Such frusturation, for examples, can sometimes come from a point of failure of communication. One side wanting to let out all that is on one's heart, but is afraid of the results of one's actions. Socially speaking, this phenomona may cause certain people alot of trouble, starting from sorrow and pain, and moving up the scale to eventually turn out as frusturation and eventually, repressed anger. In order to prevent such situation, when one's loved ones might be hurt, one must first know himself well enough to know the cause for these results.
Usually, such tight situation begin from a basic personnality flaw, or habit, that could and should be corrected.
Does one feel, when encountering such situations, that one is truthfuly love is respect one's self?
If not viewed upon correctly, one may, sometimes justly, feel that the others, one's loves ones, do not truely love and respect one. However, when this happens, one must ask one's self : Have I love and respect for myself?
A truthful answer will reveal inner feelings.
Before others can love and respect you, your actions and your time, you must first be the one to do it; Both to yourself and to them. Appreciate their time, be grateful for their actions for you, but at the same time remember you have a value as well.
Remember that there are many ways to love yourself, and anything that occures to you and an opportunity for a loving experience.
Loving yourself means, firstly, accepting yourself just the way you are, right now.
Loving the self also means, letting go of guilt. Remember, only if you feel good about yourself, and only then, could your express true humility.
Once one has respect and love for one's self, you could think of your loved ones. Know that one of the greatest gifts you could give them is to open up for their love towards you. It will only work that way, and to do so you must first have love and respect for yourself. Think of it this way, the maximum level of love one could experience would be the same level of love one has for one's self. So, if another gives you 100% of his or her love, while you are only capable of 50% self love, 50% of the other's love will be reduced by you. If what you give in return is only 50%, and the other can only receive 50%, then what you gave out already reduced by half, as well. And so it happens that you experience less and less love in your relationships. To experience more love in your lives, be prepared to accept the others' gifts of love, friendship and support.
It is very important to remember : Guild is the wrong way to handle energy. If you feel some of the things said here apply to yourself, do not feel bad about it. Love yourself a little, that's all.
Self-respect means coming from a point of strength, not weakness. Many have negative associations regarding the nature of Strength and Power. Some of you have seen people who seem to be charizmatic, strong and powerful, or at least posses authority, and yet they patronised others, or abused their power. One needs to know, that such actions evolve from the lack of self love and self respect. Again, true, healthy humility evolves only out of true strength and power, which in turn evolve from self-love and respect.
Always know, the way you treat yourself is the way other will treat you; Any situation in life is a learning experience, created by your own soul, and meant to teach you how to aquire more strength and love, both to yourself, and the universe.
Value one's self ; Know that you pick your own emotions at any given time.
With humility,
The Light is my strength
...For our strength is ethernal.
Onyx of The Efi
Greetings, from Onyx...
Some of us often experience frusturation in their relationships with people they care about. Such frusturation, for examples, can sometimes come from a point of failure of communication. One side wanting to let out all that is on one's heart, but is afraid of the results of one's actions. Socially speaking, this phenomona may cause certain people alot of trouble, starting from sorrow and pain, and moving up the scale to eventually turn out as frusturation and eventually, repressed anger. In order to prevent such situation, when one's loved ones might be hurt, one must first know himself well enough to know the cause for these results.
Usually, such tight situation begin from a basic personnality flaw, or habit, that could and should be corrected.
Does one feel, when encountering such situations, that one is truthfuly love is respect one's self?
If not viewed upon correctly, one may, sometimes justly, feel that the others, one's loves ones, do not truely love and respect one. However, when this happens, one must ask one's self : Have I love and respect for myself?
A truthful answer will reveal inner feelings.
Before others can love and respect you, your actions and your time, you must first be the one to do it; Both to yourself and to them. Appreciate their time, be grateful for their actions for you, but at the same time remember you have a value as well.
Remember that there are many ways to love yourself, and anything that occures to you and an opportunity for a loving experience.
Loving yourself means, firstly, accepting yourself just the way you are, right now.
Loving the self also means, letting go of guilt. Remember, only if you feel good about yourself, and only then, could your express true humility.
Once one has respect and love for one's self, you could think of your loved ones. Know that one of the greatest gifts you could give them is to open up for their love towards you. It will only work that way, and to do so you must first have love and respect for yourself. Think of it this way, the maximum level of love one could experience would be the same level of love one has for one's self. So, if another gives you 100% of his or her love, while you are only capable of 50% self love, 50% of the other's love will be reduced by you. If what you give in return is only 50%, and the other can only receive 50%, then what you gave out already reduced by half, as well. And so it happens that you experience less and less love in your relationships. To experience more love in your lives, be prepared to accept the others' gifts of love, friendship and support.
It is very important to remember : Guild is the wrong way to handle energy. If you feel some of the things said here apply to yourself, do not feel bad about it. Love yourself a little, that's all.
Self-respect means coming from a point of strength, not weakness. Many have negative associations regarding the nature of Strength and Power. Some of you have seen people who seem to be charizmatic, strong and powerful, or at least posses authority, and yet they patronised others, or abused their power. One needs to know, that such actions evolve from the lack of self love and self respect. Again, true, healthy humility evolves only out of true strength and power, which in turn evolve from self-love and respect.
Always know, the way you treat yourself is the way other will treat you; Any situation in life is a learning experience, created by your own soul, and meant to teach you how to aquire more strength and love, both to yourself, and the universe.
Value one's self ; Know that you pick your own emotions at any given time.
With humility,
The Light is my strength
...For our strength is ethernal.
Onyx of The Efi
